To be, or not to be.... Natural, that is.......

To be, or not to be.... Natural, that is.......

If it was absolutely necessary for you to go Natural, would You?

Sisterlocks 102: My Sisterlocks have been installed... Now What?

I've been there... I had my sisterlocks installed, and my stylist (rest her soul) didn't give me any styling options.... My ends were puffy. I began looking in the mirror and saying to myself: "Did I just make  big mistake with my hair and money?"
Almost 6 years later, I am still in love with my Sisterlocks!!!!
As a natural hair stylist, and as a previous sisterlock client, I ALWAYS consider the following when guiding my clients on their sisterlocks journey:1. I show them my early stage-"puffy ends" pictures (lol) so that they will have an idea of how the process works.2. I have pictures available of previous clients so that they can see the different stages of the settling in process.3. I am ALWAYS available (text or email) for any questions that my sisterlocks clients may have regarding their sisterlocks.4.  When in doubt, allow Tan to help you out!! (I know, that slogan sounds a little cheesy, lol).P.S.: I can't emphasize enough.... DO YOUR HOMEWORK when researching someone to install your sisterlocks.  I have had people tell me that there are people (charlatans) claiming to do sisterlocks in Walmart, yes, (lol) Walmart. Needless to say, there was tomfoolery afoot, to say the least.  Bottom line- if the person isn't listed on the sisterlocks website as either a registered trainee, approved trainee, or consultant- they are not the real deal.  I can guarantee you of this... if the person you paid doesn't do your hair right, the real sisterlocks representatives will charge you more to do it over again. Beware naturalistas...

Sisterlocks 101- What you should know before you pay!!!

Sisterlocks/Brotherlocks are a beautiful adornment to natural hair.  The Sisterlocks System was invented by Dr. Joanne Cornwell, and this hair locking technique has been used around the world for close to 30 years.  The Sisterlocks/Brotherlocks style is a technique where your natural hair is locked in such a way that you can style your hair in any form such as flat iron, color, braid, bantu knot, rod set, flat twists, or just plain natural!!!      As a natural hair care stylist, I have seen many different "versions" of sisterlocks, and all have not been genuine!! If you're thinking about getting Sisterlocks/Brotherlocks, or, if you've gotten "sisterlock-like/brotherlock-like" services, the following are steps you need to take to guarantee that your time and money is not wasted or taken:
    A.  Go to the sisterlocks registry at to verify if the Sisterlocks Home Office has the alleged stylist in their database as a Registered Trainee or Consultant. The people who are registered on the database have paid for and attended and received the intense training and testing necessary to formally be recognized as a Sisterlocks practitioner by the Sisterlocks Headquarters.
    B. Consultation: You should receive a consultation with test locks. Your Sisterlocks Practitioner should be able to do many things during the consultation which include- showing Dr. Cornwell's videos, giving test locks, and scheduling your installation date (approximately 10 days from the consultation).
        C.  On the day of the Sisterlocks installation you should receive: 1)Your Sisterlocks welcome box 2) Instructions on how to shampoo your sisterlocks and 3)Your retightening date- which should be free of charge.

You should also be vigilant in observing the hygiene and surroundings of your Sisterlocks Practitioner.  If you are not comfortable with the surroundings, please indicate this to your practitioner, or, find another practitioner.The size of your sisterlocks will NOT be the size of interlocks or traditional locks.  Also, your sisterlocks are unique in the way that they are placed on the hair.  If your "sisterlocks" are about the size of your thumb, you don't have sisterlocks. Your parts should not be diagonal and your locks should be small enough to style on the FIRST day of installation.

Your sisterlocks maintenance should be within 5 to 8 weeks- no longer.  Any time after the 8 weeks places you at risk of losing locks, and paying more to have the locks maintenanced.  

Good luck on your journey!!! Of course, if you are in the Houston, TX area, and need help with these services, please stop by or call Tan's Natural Hair Care.

How Well do you market "You"?

"Sell Yourself" is the advice that many experts indicate when getting others to see you in a different arena- be it a job, a new business venture, etc.  

However, how well do you market "You" ?  

One way to find out your status as a "You-Marketer" is to attend a networking event.....

#1- If you feel like you're out of place because you're not speaking 'networker speak- language' then you probably are...

Joseph Chung and Justin Hong, E-authors of "10 Mistakes that people make at networking events", point out some of the glaring faux pas that would-be networkers make, such as '-trying to sell products to people as soon as you meet them, -'making the conversations all about you and not the othe party you are talking to, -'staying on one side of the meeting area'- and -'only talking to people that you know.....etc.,etc.,etc...."

As human beings, we often feel the need to feel comfortable, normal, and in place- and this is good... for everyone else.... We have to be able to step outside our comfort zones, loosen up, and meet people.


#2- Do you have business cards that define who you are and what you do?  This is always a glaring concern when attending networking events.  Do you have business cards? If so, what is the appearance and feel of those business cards? Do your business cards look like they were professionally done (appearance is everything) OR Do your business cards appear as if you just printed them off your home office printer? Do your business cards have the "Vistaprint(tm)" ad on the back? or the last and largest question of this segment is... Do you HAVE any business cards in your possession right now?

I actually attended a few vending and networking events where I found all of the above... one of the first things that would-be networkers ask for is whether or not you have a business card... if your answer is no, then the other party is at the mercy of listening to what you do rather than getting a paraphrased idea of what you do from your business cards and learning more about you, the individual behind the business card- and if the network event is huge, your chances of people remembering what you said- or you- for that matter, really begin to dwindle (be warned....). Plus, (and this is just me- I can't speak for everyone... lol) when I get a business card and the card's address, phone number, etc., has been altered via pen or correction tape... this takes away the savoir faire of the business card- as well as the business card owner (to me....). 

#3-Do you have access to and are you accessible online- in other words, are you connected to the social media?   If FB, Pint, Tweets,Inst mean Fat Bacon,Pint of Milk, Tweet Candy, and Instant Coffee- then it's a very strong chance that you are definitely not connected as well as you should be... Technology has taken off and is not looking back... gone are the days of snail mail in most cases, and today's society demands that we adapt or become antiquated in our marketing quests.  You need to be as connected as possible... people need to know who you are and how to contact you.... and no, I'm not spelling out what FB, Pint, Tweets, and Ins mean- this indicates that you need to spend some homework time searching and researching... (get to it- for those of you still lost in the sea of acronyms- if you aren't lost, read on...)

#4- do you have a viable website? I hear a lot of people saying, "Hey, I'm getting my website built!!" Although this sounds awesome, if the website is not up and current (yes, I'm guilty on at least one), then what are you conveying to the people who access your website?  I've actually been given an impressive postcard flyer only to go to the website, and the interest drops... why? The reason is that the postcard flyer and the website weren't seamless- in other words, whatever is on the postcard needs to easily transfer over to the website so that the would-be client remembers what you and your marketing edge is all about- it's called branding....

#5- Your appearance :  Yes, image means a lot!!! According to Peter Murphy of, image and cleanliness are paramount to the You-package.  If you attend networking event in a hawaiian shirt (a rather weathered one) and some bermuda shorts- looking like you're ready to have fun in the sun- you're not dressed for success.  Your appearance or swagger(no pun intended) needs to 'Pop' and you need to look as only you can look- in a professional manner.  For more details, check out some of the websites for more advice on how to dress for success.

#6- Your conversation.... OML ( Oh My Land) STFUTW- (Stop The Frequent Unlimited Text-like Writing!!!!) These days, if you are in the social media, people follow every post, comment, etc., that you make.  In person, it's best to keep your networking conversation to a personable yet professional level.  For example, telling your life story is not the most appropriate, BUT, if telling a snippet of your life story is what has made you market the You that exists today, then give a brief synopsis. Plus, it helps to bring a sense of connectedness into the networking conversations, don't you think?

#7- Lastly, your attitude- The saying that your attitude determines your altitude is true.  If your attitude and body language gives off the wrong vibes, you will lose your networking connection.  If you hand people a business card and walk off as if you are the best thing since Kool-Aid was invented, chances are that your business card will not make it to the networker's next conversation(it'll probably be on the floor as trash).  If your attitude is positive, then your chances for making a viable networking connection becomes more apparent.

If you have any comments, advice, or suggestions, please feel free to comment on my blog, Thanks. Ciao.

References: Chung, J. and Hong, J.: "10 Mistakes that people make at networking Events". 

Murphy, P.: "What to say when you meet new people: 9 Secrets to Success."

Relaxers are not relaxing, and bonding glue is allergic 'bondage'

What do you do????!!!!


For more than 30 years, I had my hair relaxed only to be told that I had to keep getting the relaxers if I didn't want 'coarse and nappy' hair, even though I would have horrendous flaky burn patches afterwards... wow... the humanity(or lack thereof).. Oh ok, well now (meaning then), I won't do relaxers anymore, I'll just get my hair braided up and use the bonding glue.... Oh wait, why is my scalp itching and burning at the same time only days after the bonding glue has been applied??? Could it be, that I was ALLERGIC to LATEX???!!!!


If this sounds like you, you are definitely not alone.  For years and years, society has 'defined' how we should look, including our hair.  Wait a minute... isn't this my hair that I was born with?  So how could it possibly be bad?

For years, I had NO clue of what my natural curl pattern was, or even if a comb would be able to withstand my 'natural mane of glory (lol)'.  

For years, I was misled. Now, I am not.

By now, if you haven't seen "Good Hair", featured by Chris Rock, you have missed a lot of the Natural Hair Movement.  

Being a natural hair care stylist, I have heard and seen countless stories of women of color who have lost most or all of their hair due to relentless relaxers and bonding glue weaves.  Some of them have regained some or most of their hair- and some have lost it for good.

I spoken to some women who won't- not can't- but Won't let go of the 'creamy crack'.... Some women are natural... underneath their wigs- only to thin out the perimeter of their hairlines due to a want to hold on to a hair texture that was never theirs......


The key words here are acceptance, embracement, and self-love.

Ask yourself these questions:

1) Does a relaxed hair look define You?

2)Do you know what your true curl pattern/hair texture is without ANY curl pattern altering chemicals added?

3)Would you consider going natural? Why or why not?

I'd love to hear from you!!!!

Visit me at Tan's Natural Care Care or online  



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